When I used to picture myself at age 25, I naively thought I would be married with children, possibly a homeowner and wearing clothes from stores like Banana Republic.
I am just 25 after all.
And since I know I’m not the first twenty-something to reflect on my life on the Internet, I’m mainly posting this so I can look back at age 50 and compare notes.
Here are some lessons I’ve learned by 25—and some things I still need answers to:
1. Wear whatever the hell you want.
I used to be around someone who was always giving me the up and down with their eyes, casually making comments on what I was wearing. “Oh, that’s funny! You’re wearing this with that! That’s so you, Kell.” Like, what does that even mean? If it makes you feel good, wear it. Simple as that.
2. Quality over quantity when it comes to friendship. And alcohol.
3. You can tell a lot about a person by watching how quickly or slowly they cross the street when they see a car coming.
4. Love is both a feeling and a choice. They say real love is an “unconditional commitment to an imperfect person.” It’s not just a butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling, but also a conscious choice to stay in love through the good and bad.
5. It will always be better to carry 10 grocery bags at once than to make two trips. Because reasons.
6. A large percentage of life is spent telling yourself “you just gotta do it.”
7. Always have a side gig. It doesn’t have to pay the bills, but anything that helps you gain experience is to your benefit. Make it something you’re passionate about.
8. You never stop learning. And I also finally understand why all the middle-age students sitting in the front row of my college classes asking 1,000 questions were so engaged.
9. Everyone is outraged about everything but no one actually cares. Just something I’ve noticed from my full-time job of being on the Internet.
10. Eat clean and sweat on the regular. Our health is so underestimated. Think about it: without your health, nothing else really matters.
11. “Hand wash only” means I will never wash this article of clothing ever.
12. I am not the center of the universe. When something happens to me, it feels really huge. But there are a lot of other people walking around with different situations and perspectives than our own. We’re literally 1 in 7 billion. So… yeah.
13. You don’t magically learn how to cook.
I always irrationally thought the cooking skill would come through osmosis or something. Like all of a sudden I’m an adult, and boom, now I know how to cook. Turns out I was wrong.
14. Don’t worry so much. It prevents you from enjoying your present life, and a lot of times, what you worry about is completely out of your hands anyway. I know it’s easier said than done, but life is a series of circumstances beyond your control. Just go with it, baby.
15. “Thank you,” the two most powerful words in the English language.
16. Nobody knows what the hell they’re doing. I think the biggest thing I’ve learned is that we’re all failing a bit. Even the people online who look like they have it together? They don’t.
17. Travel as much as possible. There’s a reason why study abroad kids are so annoying when they get home. It changes your life. You will come back with a wider perspective of the world and how to make it better.
18. Change usually only occurs when you initiate it. If you don’t like something, it’s up to you to change it.
Questions I still need answers to:
☻ What are the major differences between being spiritual and religious?
☻ How many times is it appropriate to say “what?” before you just end up nodding and smiling because you still didn’t hear what they said.
☻ Is there an expiration date on insecurity? My grandma is 90 but still limits her chocolate intake because she doesn’t want to get fat.
☻ What was planning a wedding like before social media?
☻ I don’t actually like wine that much. Should I be worried?
What lessons and/or questions would you add? 🙂